
Elany M.
Couples Coach
United States
ABOUT
For the past 25 years I have worked with a broad range of clients and clinical issues. One of my specialties is working with couples who have experienced the trauma of infidelity as well as couples who need help navigating longstanding relationship issues and conflicts. My training in Psychodynamic which builds on a Developmental Model and integrates Attachment theory, Neurobiology and the concept of Differentiation. I am a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist who is now transitioning to working as a Relationship Coach. Coaching offers me the opportunity to meet with clients throughout the U.S and Europe.
Most people want to communicate and connect deeply to their partner but often lack the skills and sometimes even the language to do so. With a little guidance, I believe that you and your partner have the capacity to achieve a full and satisfying partnership. Inevitably, all relationships face conflict when differences arise. Relief and resolution are possible.
If you choose to work with me, each of you will be stretched to your growing edge resulting in personal and relational growth. I like to think of this as a collaboration where each partner becomes a guardian of the relationship. I utilize a very specific communication approach that will teach you how to be present for each other in the midst of conflict with compassion and receptivity instead of defensiveness and anger. If you and your partner are craving a deeper, more loving connection but don’t know how to get there, you may be ready for couples coaching.
I recently relocated from California to Southern Portugal with my husband where I now make my home and meet virtually with clients in the U.S. and Europe.
SPECIALITIES
- Anger management or verbal abuse
- Betrayal
- Commitment
- Compatibility conflicts
- Co-Parenting
- Couple relationships where one or both partners have a mental health diagnosis such as depression
- Decision to separate or divorce
- Drifting apart
- Empty nest syndrome
- Falling out of love
- Family system or in-law challenges
- Feeling defeated or unhappy
- Improving your communication skills
- Intimacy or sexual issues
- Jealousy
- Lack of trust
- Marital Counseling/Couples Counseling
- Money conflicts
- Motivation/Priorities/Roles & Responsibility
- Negotiation and decision making skills
- Parenting conflicts
- Physical or emotional affair
- Pre-marital issues
- Role of power/controlling behavior
- Trauma
Clinical Approach
Developmental Model
Years of Experience
22+
SERVICE LOCATIONS
- United States
- Telehealth (virtual)
Credentials
- Couples Coach Couples Coach
A relationship coach supports couples in learning vital partnership skills and helps you to develop conflict resolution skills, offering tools to achieve a thriving, healthy relationship. Coaches tend to focus on the present and creating an inspired future.
All well-trained relationship specialists seek to offer advice, feedback, observations, and homework to help your relationship evolve. Therapists and counselors have mandatory educational and licensing requirements that are determined by the state or country in which they practice. Coaches do not. - Master's in Clinical Psychology
A relationship coach supports couples in learning vital partnership skills and helps you to develop conflict resolution skills, offering tools to achieve a thriving, healthy relationship. Coaches tend to focus on the present and creating an inspired future.
All well-trained relationship specialists seek to offer advice, feedback, observations, and homework to help your relationship evolve. Therapists and counselors have mandatory educational and licensing requirements that are determined by the state or country in which they practice. Coaches do not.
Advanced Training
- Developmental Model of Couples Therapy
- Developmental Model of Couples Therapy Advanced
Advanced Training
Languages
- English
Languages
Accepted Payment Mode
Venmo, Zelle
SPECIALITIES
- Anger management or verbal abuse
- Betrayal
- Commitment
- Compatibility conflicts
- Co-Parenting
- Couple relationships where one or both partners have a mental health diagnosis such as depression
- Decision to separate or divorce
- Drifting apart
- Empty nest syndrome
- Falling out of love
- Family system or in-law challenges
- Feeling defeated or unhappy
- Improving your communication skills
- Intimacy or sexual issues
- Jealousy
- Lack of trust
- Marital Counseling/Couples Counseling
- Money conflicts
- Motivation/Priorities/Roles & Responsibility
- Negotiation and decision making skills
- Parenting conflicts
- Physical or emotional affair
- Pre-marital issues
- Role of power/controlling behavior
- Trauma
Clinical Approach: Developmental Model
Years of Experience
22+CREDENTIALS
Credentials
- Couples Coach Couples Coach
A relationship coach supports couples in learning vital partnership skills and helps you to develop conflict resolution skills, offering tools to achieve a thriving, healthy relationship. Coaches tend to focus on the present and creating an inspired future.
All well-trained relationship specialists seek to offer advice, feedback, observations, and homework to help your relationship evolve. Therapists and counselors have mandatory educational and licensing requirements that are determined by the state or country in which they practice. Coaches do not. - Master’s in Clinical Psychology
ADVANCED TRAINING
- Developmental Model of Couples Therapy
- Developmental Model of Couples Therapy Advanced
Advanced Training
LANGUAGES
- English
Languages
SERVICE LOCATIONS
- United States
- Telehealth (virtual)
TESTIMONIALS
Elany helped me through the toughest transitions of my life. With understanding, compassion, and patience, she counseled me through divorce, depression, my father’s passing, and a career-change. She is perceptive and straightforward, providing me with tools to identify, feel, and regulate my emotions, and giving me a much needed outside perspective.
I used to roll my eyes at anything remotely related to ‘mindfulness’ and ‘self-care,’ but she showed me that taking care of myself is no laughing matter. Elany is somehow both indulgent and tough, and I am very grateful to have connected with her.
Tammy W.
My partner and I have been together for over 17 years, and we have worked with different therapists throughout the years to help us with issues such as communication, being in an lgbt relationship, raising a child, and work life balance. Most therapists have helped by listening to our issues and offering suggestions, but we seemed to always fall into the same cycle of relationship ups and downs without resolving anything.
We were referred to Elany about a month before the pandemic began, which in hindsight was a godsend because I honestly don’t think our relationship would have survived. Within the first session, she observed how we were with each other and taught us communication techniques that completely changed how we listened and responded to each other. She also picked up on the fact that my partner might have ADD and encouraged her to get diagnosed.
Even though the sessions were virtual, Elany was able to astutely observe our behavior and body language. She was able to hone in on key problems that we needed to address. We are so grateful to Elany, she truly has changed our relationship and our lives.
Jenny & Ming
Our sessions with Elany have imparted skills surrounding communication and empathy, that my partner and I feel will last our lifetimes. Our relationship went from near failure to a strong marriage, and growing family in a healthy and happy environment. We are convinced that without her guidance we could not have made it this far.
During the pandemic, we transitioned seamlessly from “in person” meetings to virtual meetings with just as much positive impact. We are so grateful for her experience and professional service with just the right balance of tenderness and tough love.
Daniel & Camille
The foundation of our marriage was rocky when we began working with Elany. We feel incredibly fortunate to have found a couple’s therapist that we trust, are comfortable with and is adept at navigating issues like infidelity and addiction. Her engaging and dynamic approach, as well as ability to quickly get to the heart of our conflicts, gave us confidence early on that we were on the right path.
We found the healing we were seeking and have always ended each session with forward movement as well as tools we could apply to our daily life. We still see her intermittently after seven years as part of the care and attention we believe our marriage needs and deserves. We even look forward to it.
Lynette & Thomas
I highly recommend Elany to anyone seeking a therapist. She is compassionate, empathetic and professional. I am happy to say she has helped me work through issues including relationships, self-worth and so much more. I have seen her in both couples counseling and one on one counseling settings and she was exceptionally good in these vastly different and often complicated situations. Elany helps you to look deeply into yourself to learn about why you behave in a certain way. I wish I had found her years ago.
Karen
My wife and I have been working with Elany for about six months. We have been very happy with the outcome of our meetings. Elany has a very comfortable style. She has a knack for identifying the important issues and is able to drill down without either of us feeling threatened or “gained-up” on. We highly recommend her to anybody looking to make and keep a relationship successful.
Mike & Melanie
We are so thankful for our time spent working with Elany. The kindness and care she showed will be with us forever. We were very happy that our first experience with couples therapy was with Elany. We will carry her presence and words with us as long as we share our lives together. We are grateful for her ability to guide us in the kind and caring way she did.
Emily & Chris
I cannot thank Elany enough for all the difficult situations she helped me overcome and for all the amazing things she helped me accomplish in the past 7 years. I first became Elany’s client in the midst of a divorce that I did not choose to initiate. With Elany’s professional support I was able to not only survive that heartbreak, but also recognize underlying issues that were preventing me to see reality for what it was and to live my best life, regardless of relationship status or other external circumstances.
At first, we worked a lot on co-dependency, self-talk and communication strategies. Later, Elany helped me dream up a future for myself and then devise a plan for how to turn that dream into reality. I’m currently wrapping up a PhD program that I started thanks to this therapy work we did. I have had so much fun exploring parts of myself I had lost connection with over the years! I am very proud of the fact that I was able to rebuild a friendship with my ex-husband. We are great co-parents to our beautiful daughter and we learned to be a happy family, albeit not a traditional one.
Despite all the challenges, life is good, and I am sincerely grateful for having had Elany’s support in my journey.
Joana
We were both feeling that our marriage was over. We had grown distant from each other through years of is communication. The apathy we shared towards each other paved the way for resentment, anger, and infidelity. In our eyes, our marriage was unsalvageable.
But through Elany’s guidance and counseling, we were able to deconstruct our marriage – learning new ways to communicate with each other and rebuild that trust that we lost along the way. It was an extremely difficult mountain to summit but with Elany’s help, we were able to get to the other side one small step at a time.