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Monica H.

LCSW

Union, MO


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ABOUT

Hi I’m Monica

…and it is My Mission to help couples to reconnect, heal quickly and then be able to pursue their life’s dreams together….. even if you are doing pretty good (and especially when it’s gotten really tough).

Often, we don’t actually know that we are doing too little, too late. Sometimes we just don’t know the precise things we need to do, or what is required to maintain and grow the joy, pleasure and connection in our intimate relationship. It’s not your fault.

Every week I see couples who say they wish they had paid more attention to their relationship over the years. When I ask them why they didn’t they say,

“I thought it was a phase”

“we just got busy and before we knew it we had “fallen out of love”

“we are just like roommates now”

“we should have done this years ago”

“we wasted all this time blaming each other”

For the past 30 years, I have helped couples work to repair, rebuild, and rekindle intimacy then reconnect to live the life of their dreams.

In my work hundreds of couples have successfully proven that these tools are effective to creating a lasting connection. Using proven scientific methods helps take surviving to thriving, to live the relationship you dreamed.

Oh and by the way, I have been married for over 30+ years to a wonderful partner and am the proud parent of 2 kids that I am bravely launching into loving relationships and life. Love to help you too!! Won’t you come join me?

My Story

How I became a Couples Therapy, Sex Therapy expert.

OK, so I’m not really called a SexPert (:-)..

… but the hundreds of couples and individuals with sex and intimacy concerns I have helped go from Struggling to Finding ReConnection, Healing and Repair, actually think I am.

Before I dedicated myself to helping people say adios to “Feeling Like Roommates Or Worse”, I was apparently already on My Lifetime Mission because I have always been concerned with Helping People ReConnect. As the child of a urologist, it is just natural for me to have a window into the sexual functioning of individuals. That combined with my training in couple connection ended up being a win win.

Let’s Do the Math…So, the reason I am CALLED an expert is because one fine day, I decided I was going to really figure this whole Couples Therapy, Sex Therapy, Affair Recovery thing out.

For one, I wanted a solution, not a possible solution but a sure-shot, carved-in-stone solution. You know SCIENCE, and so I found it.

I gave it my all (time, money, effort) and I am incredibly honored to have worked with so many fine couples and proud of the results they have managed to create for themselves. That is how I became a Nationally Certified Sex Therapist.

So that’s it, that’s me.

My Approach

Believe in the Pleasure Potential-Grow Expand

Joy and Fun Are Key and Deserved in Couples

Change is possible

Knowing what why and how to change makes all the difference

Use Experience skilled training and kind approach

Use Vast knowledge and possibilities

Unlock potential to a truly intimate relationship

Private issue but you don’t have to struggle in silence

My Training

I am a Couples and Intimacy Specialist and maintain a private practice in Union, Missouri. As a Nationally Certified Sex Therapist I value intimate connections for couples and sexual health education as an important goal for everyone.

I regularly speak to groups about intimacy human sexuality, across the nation including nurses, providers and support groups for patients.

My areas of expertise include couples and intimacy, sexuality and all the challenges and areas that includes.

SPECIALITIES

  • Betrayal
  • Commitment
  • Compatibility conflicts
  • Couple relationships where one or both partners have a mental health diagnosis such as depression
  • Couples Therapy Intensives
  • Decision to separate or divorce
  • Drifting apart
  • Empty nest syndrome
  • Falling out of love
  • Family system or in-law challenges
  • Hopelessness or desperation
  • Improving your communication skills
  • Intimacy or sexual issues
  • Jealousy
  • Lack of trust
  • Marital Counseling/Couples Counseling
  • Medical/Disease/Injury affecting your relationship
  • Money conflicts
  • Motivation/Priorities/Roles & Responsibility
  • Negotiation and decision making skills
  • Parenting conflicts
  • Physical or emotional affair
  • Pre-marital issues
  • Role of power/controlling behavior
Union, MO

Clinical Approach

Developmental Model


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30+

  • Missouri

  • LCSW (Licensed Clinical Social Worker) Licensed Clinical Social Worker
    All well-trained relationship specialists seek to offer advice, feedback, observations, and homework to help your relationship evolve.

    This profession usually requires two years of study after obtaining an undergraduate degree. While specific licensure requirements vary by state, most require clinical social workers to obtain 3,000 hours or 2 years of supervised clinical experience, after obtaining a Masters degree. Social workers can also specialize in diverse fields such as human services management, social welfare analysis, community organizing, social and community development, and social and political research.

    As you know, this is not an easy task when you and your partner are struggling to communicate, cooperate, and connect. This is where a highly trained guide is especially valuable.
  • AASECT Certified Sex Therapist
  • National Association of Social Workers

  • Infidelity and Couples therapy

  • English

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SPECIALITIES

  • Betrayal
  • Commitment
  • Compatibility conflicts
  • Couple relationships where one or both partners have a mental health diagnosis such as depression
  • Couples Therapy Intensives
  • Decision to separate or divorce
  • Drifting apart
  • Empty nest syndrome
  • Falling out of love
  • Family system or in-law challenges
  • Hopelessness or desperation
  • Improving your communication skills
  • Intimacy or sexual issues
  • Jealousy
  • Lack of trust
  • Marital Counseling/Couples Counseling
  • Medical/Disease/Injury affecting your relationship
  • Money conflicts
  • Motivation/Priorities/Roles & Responsibility
  • Negotiation and decision making skills
  • Parenting conflicts
  • Physical or emotional affair
  • Pre-marital issues
  • Role of power/controlling behavior

Clinical Approach: Developmental Model

30+

  • LCSW (Licensed Clinical Social Worker) Licensed Clinical Social Worker
    All well-trained relationship specialists seek to offer advice, feedback, observations, and homework to help your relationship evolve.

    This profession usually requires two years of study after obtaining an undergraduate degree. While specific licensure requirements vary by state, most require clinical social workers to obtain 3,000 hours or 2 years of supervised clinical experience, after obtaining a Masters degree. Social workers can also specialize in diverse fields such as human services management, social welfare analysis, community organizing, social and community development, and social and political research.

    As you know, this is not an easy task when you and your partner are struggling to communicate, cooperate, and connect. This is where a highly trained guide is especially valuable.
  • AASECT Certified Sex Therapist
  • National Association of Social Workers

ADVANCED TRAINING

  • Infidelity and Couples therapy

LANGUAGES

  • English
  • Missouri

SERVICES OFFERED

  • Virtual

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TESTIMONIALS

“By going through your coarse, my wife and I gained insight into each other and ourselves that wouldn’t otherwise have been possible. What made this so valuable to us is that we did it together. The efforts that we made and the time spent was all done together. We invested in the process together and the product was new growth, together.

We find ourselves able to be tender again. We’re able to be compassionate, and understanding too. For all this, we’re better spouses to each other and far better parents to our children. That makes our experience with you just about the most beautiful thing I can imagine. Thank you”

Husband, 45

” I am grateful for your guidance in learning these new tools to better understanding how to be there for one another. We spent most of (the next) day talking with one another making sure we both felt safe before broaching a subject and even during the conversations. It was really uplifting, relieving and hopeful to our future as a couple. I do look forward to keeping in contact with you. “

Couple Mid 40’s Affair Recovery Retreat

Our intimacy is stronger than ever before. We still have our weekly meetings and have compromised on some really big things for us. We have actually made some breakthroughs.”